Behind The Scenes
 
BDSM/Fetish PLAY LIST
    Prepared by Jrsygir1(6/2000), this list was inspired by many existing lists on the internet....it was prepared and is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used for commercial gain.....please feel free to reproduce and distribute this document free of charge anywhere on the internet or in print.
    This is a Play list that may help couples figure out what their wants and needs are. When someone fills it out they should indicate if they are filling it out for their ultimate Dominant/Top partner or for someone in particular, taking into consideration the nature of the relationship. In other words if I were filling it out for my longtime Dominant partner it would look different than if I were filling it out for a new casual play partner. Some of the answers would be different based on the nature of the relationship and the level of trust involved.
Please note; nothing in my opinion takes the place of chemistry and face to face communication.
How to fill out the forms;
A. Done it YES or NO
B. Indicate how you felt about it when you did it using the following indicators;
NO means you will NOT do that activity under any circumstances. Its a hard limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD! THE END! DONT EVEN GO THERE!
0   means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to do it at least a little to please the Dominant/Top, but you would really rather not. It can also mean you are not able to do that activity with a casual play partner but in the right situation, like a committed relationship, you would be capable of doing it. And this is why communication will never take the place of a Play list.
1   means you don't care much about it....under the right circumstances it might be fun...what the hell...ok you will try it.
2   means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond...in theory you think you will like it.....but you  reserve the right to hate it.
3   means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the Dominant/Top can make it more fun.
4   means you love it, you get hot thinking about it....and you really want to do it.
5   means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do it more more more...all the time...AGAIN!!!
C.  Indicate for each item how you feel RIGHT NOW about doing that activity with the person who asked you to fill this play list out, assuming there will be chemistry when you actually meet.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances. Its a hard limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD! THE END! DONT EVEN GO THERE!
0   means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to do it at least a little to please the Dominant. It can also mean you are not able to do that activity with a casual play partner but in the right situation, like a committed relationship, you would be capable of doing it. And this is why communication will never take the place of a Play list.
1   means you don't care much about it....under the right circumstances it might be fun...what the hell...ok you will try it.
2   means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond...in theory you think you will like it.....but you  reserve the right to hate it.
3   means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the Dominant/Top can make it more fun.
4   means you love it, you get hot thinking about it....and you really want to do it.
5   means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do it more more more...all the time...AGAIN!!!
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I, ________________, am filling this play list out at the request of _______________ . 
My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one);
None     Some     Casual     Serious     Extensive
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SEX
Is sex something you want in your BDSM relationship?
Define sex;
Define Safe Sex;
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
Anal penetration (penis)	 	 	 	 	
Anal penetration (object)	 	 	 	 	
Anal penetration (doing)	 	 	 	 	
Anal fisting (getting)	 	 	 	 	
Analingus (giving)	 	 	 	 	
Analingus (getting)	 	 	 	 	
Cock worship (doing)	 	 	 	 	
Cunnilingus (getting)	 	 	 	 	
Cunnilingus (giving)	 	 	 	 	
Cyber Sex	 	 	 	 	
Direct masturbation	 	 	 	 	
Double penetration (oral/anal)	 	 	 	 	
Double Penetration (vaginal/anal)	 	 	 	 	
Eating/drinking cum (others)	 	 	 	 	
Eating/drinking cum (own)	 	 	 	 	
Fantasy rape	 	 	 	 	
Fellatio (getting)	 	 	 	 	
Fellatio (giving)	 	 	 	 	
Group sex	 	 	 	 	
Intercourse	 	 	 	 	
Phone Sex	 	 	 	 	
Public Sex	 	 	 	 	
Strap-ons (receiving)	 	 	 	 	
Threesomes 	 	 	 	 	
Triple Penetration	 	 	 	 	
Vaginal sex (penis)	 	 	 	 	
Vibrator/dildo	 	 	 	 	

 	 	 	 	 	
 	 	 	 	 	
BONDAGE
Degree of immobility or helplessness enjoyed (circle one) Light     Medium     Heavy
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
1-3 hour duration	 	 	 	 	
3-6 hour duration	 	 	 	 	
Overnight duration	 	 	 	 	
Arm sleeves	 	 	 	 	
Bondage (light)	 	 	 	 	
Bondage (heavy)	 	 	 	 	
Breast bondage	 	 	 	 	
Cages	 	 	 	 	
Ceiling/wall hooks	 	 	 	 	
Collars (leather)	 	 	 	 	
Collars (other)	 	 	 	 	
Cotton ropes	 	 	 	 	
Chains	 	 	 	 	
Cuffs (leather)	 	 	 	 	
Cuffs (other)	 	 	 	 	
Gags (ball)	 	 	 	 	
Gags (funnel)	 	 	 	 	
Gags (panties)	 	 	 	 	
Gags (other)	 	 	 	 	
Genital bondage	 	 	 	 	
Harnessing (suspended)	 	 	 	 	
Intricate rope bondage	 	 	 	 	
Leather restraints	 	 	 	 	
Mental bondage	 	 	 	 	
Mummification	 	 	 	 	
Nylon rope	 	 	 	 	
Saran wrapping	 	 	 	 	
Shackles	 	 	 	 	
Silk scarves	 	 	 	 	
Slings/swings	 	 	 	 	
Spreader-bars	 	 	 	 	
Spread-eagle	 	 	 	 	
Stocks	 	 	 	 	
Straightjackets	 	 	 	 	
Strapping - full body	 	 	 	 	
Suspension (on toes)	 	 	 	 	
Suspension (full)	 	 	 	 	
Suspension (inverted)	 	 	 	 	

 	 	 	 	 	
PUNISHMENT
Do you respond to punishment?
Under what circumstances is punishment not ok?
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
Belt/strap	 	 	 	 	
Cane	 	 	 	 	
Denial of pleasure	 	 	 	 	
Fiberglass/plastic rod	 	 	 	 	
Isolation	 	 	 	 	
Leather Flogger	 	 	 	 	
Leather paddle	 	 	 	 	
Riding crop	 	 	 	 	
Rubber whip	 	 	 	 	
Ruler	 	 	 	 	
Silent Treatment	 	 	 	 	
Single lash	 	 	 	 	
Spanking	 	 	 	 	
Switch	 	 	 	 	
Wooden paddle	 	 	 	 	
Soap In Mouth	 	 	 	 	

 	 	 	 	 	
 	 	 	 	 	
ROLE PLAY
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
Pony	 	 	 	 	
Dog	 	 	 	 	
Cat	 	 	 	 	
Bunny	 	 	 	 	
Worm	 	 	 	 	
Whore	 	 	 	 	
Patient	 	 	 	 	
Nurse	 	 	 	 	
Victim	 	 	 	 	
Corpse	 	 	 	 	
Prison Inmate	 	 	 	 	
Slut	 	 	 	 	
Furniture	 	 	 	 	
Pig	 	 	 	 	
Maid	 	 	 	 	
Sissy	 	 	 	 	
Doll	 	 	 	 	
Kajira	 	 	 	 	
Baby	 	 	 	 	
Robot	 	 	 	 	
Stripper	 	 	 	 	

 	 	 	 	 	
 	 	 	 	 	
FETISH 
What items or types of play make the little man in your boat stand up and sing?
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
Boot worship	 	 	 	 	
Balloons	 	 	 	 	
Food	 	 	 	 	
Stuffed animals	 	 	 	 	
Restraints	 	 	 	 	
Bugs	 	 	 	 	
Shoes	 	 	 	 	
Stinky Feet	 	 	 	 	
Socks	 	 	 	 	
Stockings	 	 	 	 	
Masks	 	 	 	 	
Corsets (wearing)	 	 	 	 	
Corsets (on others)	 	 	 	 	
Voluntary X dressing	 	 	 	 	
Forced x dressing	 	 	 	 	
Public X dressing	 	 	 	 	
Uniforms	 	 	 	 	
Foot Worship	 	 	 	 	
High heel wearing	 	 	 	 	
High heel worship	 	 	 	 	
Latex wearing	 	 	 	 	
Latex, on others	 	 	 	 	
Rubber wearing	 	 	 	 	
Rubber on others	 	 	 	 	
Leather wearing	 	 	 	 	
Leather on others	 	 	 	 	
Feet	 	 	 	 	
Body Inflation	 	 	 	 	
Lactation	 	 	 	 	
Amazons	 	 	 	 	
Crush	 	 	 	 	
Canine	 	 	 	 	
Hair	 	 	 	 	
Pregnant Females	 	 	 	 	
Needles	 	 	 	 	
Blood	 	 	 	 	
Smoking	 	 	 	 	
Tickling	 	 	 	 	
Vampires	 	 	 	 	
Long Nails	 	 	 	 	
Dirty Panties	 	 	 	 	
Guns	 	 	 	 	
Knives	 	 	 	 	

HUMILIATION & EXHIBITIONISM
Is humiliation something you might get into?
What about being displayed in public?
What types of humiliation would be off limits?
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
Crossing dressing	 	 	 	 	
Crawling	 	 	 	 	
Dirty words	 	 	 	 	
Face slapping	 	 	 	 	
Foot kissing	 	 	 	 	
Kneeling	 	 	 	 	
Lead on leash	 	 	 	 	
Public display	 	 	 	 	
Public embarrassment	 	 	 	 	
Public sex	 	 	 	 	
Secret sex in public	 	 	 	 	
Verbal abuse	 	 	 	 	
Examination	 	 	 	 	
Inspection	 	 	 	 	
Objectification	 	 	 	 	
Toilet	 	 	 	 	
Forced Nudity	 	 	 	 	
Given Away	 	 	 	 	
Ashtray	 	 	 	 	

 	 	 	 	 	
BODILY FUNCTIONS
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
Breath Control	 	 	 	 	
Brown showers, scat	 	 	 	 	
Catheterization	 	 	 	 	
Eating/drinking own waste	 	 	 	 	
Eating/drinking own cum	 	 	 	 	
Enemas	 	 	 	 	
Physical Examinations	 	 	 	 	
Golden showers	 	 	 	 	
Medical scenes	 	 	 	 	
Menstrual service	 	 	 	 	
Sweat	 	 	 	 	
Snot	 	 	 	 	
Spit	 	 	 	 	
Diapering	 	 	 	 	

 	 	 	 	 	
INTENSE SENSATION AND IMPACT PLAY
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
Branding	 	 	 	 	
Caning	 	 	 	 	
Clip & Clamps	 	 	 	 	
Cock & Ball torture	 	 	 	 	
Cutting	 	 	 	 	
Electrical play	 	 	 	 	
Flogging	 	 	 	 	
Fire	 	 	 	 	
Hair Pulling	 	 	 	 	
Heat	 	 	 	 	
Hot Wax	 	 	 	 	
Needles (Play piercing)	 	 	 	 	
Paddling	 	 	 	 	
Pressure Points	 	 	 	 	
Punching	 	 	 	 	
Scratching (giving)	 	 	 	 	
Scratching (receiving)	 	 	 	 	
Slapping	 	 	 	 	
Spanking (hand)	 	 	 	 	
Spanking (other)	 	 	 	 	
Whipping (single tail)	 	 	 	 	
Whipping (other)	 	 	 	 	

 	 	 	 	 	
OTHER STUFF
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
Hoods (leather)	 	 	 	 	
Hoods (metal)	 	 	 	 	
Hoods (other)	 	 	 	 	
Blindfolds	 	 	 	 	
Head Harness	 	 	 	 	
Ice	 	 	 	 	
Interrogations	 	 	 	 	
Kidnapping	 	 	 	 	
Massage - getting	 	 	 	 	
Massage - giving	 	 	 	 	
Piercing (permanent)	 	 	 	 	
Photographs	 	 	 	 	
Romantic play	 	 	 	 	
Sensory deprivation	 	 	 	 	
Shaving 	 	 	 	 	
Tattoos	 	 	 	 	
Teasing	 	 	 	 	
Voyeurism	 	 	 	 	
Videoed scenes	 	 	 	 	
Wrestling	 	 	 	 	

 	 	 	 	 	

For you, the turn on of BDSM is:  (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):
ITEM, VALUE, COMMENT
Visual	 	 	
Psychological	 	 	
Aural (sound)	 	 	
Sensory-intense	 	 	
Emotional	 	 	
Sensual-erotic	 	 	
other; 
 	 	 	
What positions have the highest erotic value for you (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):
Standing bondage	 	 	
Lying on back	 	 	
Lying face down	 	 	
Hands & Knees	 	 	
Kneeling	 	 	
other; 
 	 	 	
What toys have the highest erotic value for you (1=some interest; 2=pretty exciting; 3=very erotic)
ITEM, VALUE, COMMENT
Whips	 	 	
Floggers	 	 	
Canes	 	 	
Paddles	 	 	
Electrical toys	 	 	
Ropes	 	 	
Chains	 	 	
Leather Restraints	 	 	
Wax	 	 	
Knives	 	 	
Nipple clamps	 	 	
Clothespins	 	 	
Paddles	 	 	
Uniforms	 	 	
Dildos	 	 	
Vibrators	 	 	
Butt plugs	 	 	
Gags	 	 	
Handcuffs	 	 	
Blindfolds	 	 	
Belts	 	 	
Harnesses & Slings	 	 	
Boots/shoes	 	 	
Clothing	 	 	
Collars	 	 	

 	 	 	

 	 	 	
 	 	 	
How do you usually like it? (use all that apply)
(N) never, (T) thuddy, (S) stingy, (L) light, (M) medium , (H) heavy , (?) unsure
Back 	 	
Butt	 	
Breasts 	 	
Face	 	
Feet 	 	
Genitals	 	
Shoulders	 	
Thighs	 	

These activities interest me and why;
Discipline
 	 	
Punishment
 	 	
Mental Domination
 	 	
NLP
 	 	
Non Consensual
 	 	
Exhibitionism
 	 	
Humiliation
 	 	
Swapping
 	 	
Fantasy Rape
 	 	
Fear Play 
 	 	
Bondage 
 	 	
Sensory Deprivation 
 	 	
Forced Feminization 
 	 	
Role Play 
 	 	
Public Play 
 	 	
Hypnosis 
 	 	
Suspension 
 	 	
Mummification 
 	 	
Extreme Punishment 
 	 	
Extreme Pain 
 	 	
Long Term Service 
 	 	
Slavery 

 	 	

  
 	 	
Your biggest fantasy is;
Your favorite scene was;
Your worst scene was;
Your biggest fears are;
How do you feel about Polyamory?
Do you consider yourself Poly or Monogamous?
What parts of your body are most erotically sensitive?
What parts of your Dom's body would you most like to pleasure?
List any known limits for the specific play partner this questionnaire is being prepared for;
What disease screenings have you had (dates) and what were the outcomes?
What disease screenings are you willing to get?
What disease screenings are you unwilling to get and why?
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For the Tops/Dominants;
My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one);
None     Some     Casual     Serious     Extensive
I as the Top/Dominant have the following limits;
What safe words will be used and what are their specific meanings?
My style of BDSM is best described as;
If you couldn’t use toys, pain or sex, how would you Dominate your submissive/bottom?
 
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Dominant/Top's Real Name is ________________________
Place of Employment_________________________
Employer Phone # __________________
I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info will be given to the safe call person of the  play partner when we meet in real life.
Member of the following BDSM organizations;
References;
 
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Submissive/bottom's Real Name is ________________________
Place of Employment_________________________
Employer Phone # __________________
I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info will be given to the safe call person of the  play partner when we meet in real life.
Member of the following BDSM organizations;
References;